Somewhere along this path, concepts like compromise and negotiation have become negative rather than positive. It's happening at the local level- our school board refusing to sit down with us to work together to solve the budget issues. It's happening at our state level- Walker refusing to sit down and talk with union leaders and the 14 Democratic Senators. And it's happening at the Federal level, as we all know from the circus going on in Washington.
On June 4th Time Magazine ran this article, and said, "Since Obama's election, McConnell has mostly treated compromise like a dirty word, derailing his GOP colleagues when they tried to bargain with Democrats."
As a parent of two children, I am constantly pushing my children to solve their own arguments.
This is what it looks like.
My son: "Want to play legos?"
My daughter: "No."
My son: "You can bring your Barbie and I'll make her a car."
My daughter: "OK."
There you have it. Negotiation and compromise from a 10 and 5 year old.
Problem solved. Life goes on.
At my job I work with students who have a wide range of disabilities. For many of the students I work with, their ability to compromise and negotiation is weakened or delayed. And I help them learn these skills. But before I can teach them, I must find out the underlying cause to their difficulties with these skills. And it's all about perspective. Understanding how to put yourself in someone else's shoes. Comprehending that not every person thinks and feels the way you do.
So when I teach the students, I first help them learn that perspective means "Everybody feels different. And that's OK." From there I teach them how to identify how someone else might be feeling in a situation and why. And then we role play and practice being someone else to learn to understand other people. And then, after lots of practice, I help the students learn how to negotiate and compromise so that they get some of what they want and so does the other person.
So I think I've found a second career- one to supplement the pay cut I will take this year. I'm willing to give workshops to anyone at any level of government for just a small fee. Because if I can teach my own children and the children I work with at my job, then I can teach a bunch of adults who have forgotten one of the most basic and important skills of all, i.e. How to Get Along with Others
Maybe that could be the title for my workshops. I like "Let's Make a Deal" better, but that phrase may already be taken...